If you define masculinity as constant warfare, you are setting yourself up for emotional exhaustion in your marriage. Author Stephen Mansfield joins us to explain why the warrior script fails at home.

Many men believe that being against something is the same as going to war with it. In the Episode of American Masculinity we discuss how this mentality creates a divide in healthy relationships, leaving men drained and unable to offer the support their spouses actually need. It is possible to pursue mastery of yourself without treating your home life like a battlefield. 

Nick Papadopoulos is an executive coach who has led men's groups for over 22 years and co-wrote The Men's Group: A Novel of Messy Friendships. One of his clients, a COO, came to him with a newborn at home, no intimacy in his marriage, a father dying of cancer, and a losing battle with his CFO. He'd tried talking to the neighborhood dads over beers, but all they wanted to discuss was the beer and the game. He needed a real conversation.We unpack why men's circles shrink as their lives get bigger, how a partner ends up as a man's therapist, coach, and priest all at once, and why "shoulder to shoulder" is where most guys connect but can't be where it stops. 

Dr. Ken Martz has spent nearly 30 years working in mental health. He’s written 16 books, worked with anxiety and panic for decades, and knows firsthand what happens when being productive, driven, and “fine” becomes a substitute for noticing that your system is overloaded.

In this conversation we unpack high-functioning anxiety in men, why the same drive that makes you successful can eventually start working against you, and how to tell the difference between healthy stress and a nervous system that has been running at full throttle for too long. Because the problem isn’t ambition. It’s having a gas pedal without a brake.